When Pressure Becomes Your Normal

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This is part 5 of a 9-week series exploring the relationship between nervous system regulation and leadership performance. Each week I'll share research, stories, and practical tools that have shaped both my professional career and personal practice.

In the last article, we explored how pressure can temporarily reduce our access to the capabilities we already have. This week, we're looking at what happens when that pressure doesn't let up.

For nearly a decade, I helped build a high-growth energy startup. One of our common refrains was, "The next three to six months are the most important in the company's history." The remarkable thing was that it was usually true.

The work mattered. The urgency was real. The responsibility was enormous. Like many growing organizations, we learned to operate under constant pressure because the business demanded it.

At first, that pressure sharpened us. It brought focus, urgency, and determination. It helped us solve problems quickly and accomplish things that often seemed impossible.

But over time, I began to notice something different.

Some of the most capable people I knew slowly began to change.

Not overnight, and not because they cared any less.

Curiosity gave way to caution. Creativity narrowed. Patience shortened. Difficult conversations required more energy. Work they had once found deeply meaningful began to feel heavier, and the motivation that had once come so naturally gradually faded.

Eventually, I experienced it myself.

I burned out.

Not all at once, but gradually, after asking my body to sustain a level of activation that recovery could no longer keep pace with.

At the time, I assumed it was simply the cost of building something meaningful.

Looking back, I think something else was happening.

Most of us have experienced a version of this in everyday life.

Have you ever noticed that it often takes several days into a vacation before you finally begin to feel like yourself again?

The first few days are frequently spent letting go of the responsibility you've been carrying—trusting others to handle problems, accepting that some conversations can wait, and realizing the world continues without you. Only then do your mind and body begin to settle.

That isn't laziness or a lack of drive.

It's a reminder that pressure can become so familiar we stop noticing it. We adapt to it, accept it as normal, and often don't recognize what we've been carrying until our environment changes enough for us to feel the difference.

Psychiatrist Dr. Bessel van der Kolk's book The Body Keeps the Score is best known for its work on trauma. While his research focuses primarily on traumatic experiences, one lesson extends much more broadly:

Our bodies record repeated experiences.

Most leaders aren't responding to traumatic events. They're responding to years of deadlines, difficult conversations, uncertainty, organizational change, constant connectivity, and the weight of responsibility.

We adapt remarkably well to repeated experience. If we're asked to operate in a heightened state without adequate recovery, that elevated level of activation can gradually begin to feel normal. When that happens, it's easy to assume nothing has changed because the pressure has become our baseline.

The challenge is that while pressure may begin to feel normal, its effects don't simply disappear.

When someone's motivation begins to decline, organizations naturally look for ways to re-engage them. They improve recognition, invest in leadership development, strengthen culture, or redesign incentive programs.

Those efforts matter.

But sometimes they aren't addressing the real problem.

Sometimes the issue isn't motivation.

It's capacity.

Over the past few weeks, we've talked about how acute pressure can reduce our access to the capabilities we already possess. Chronic pressure introduces a different challenge. Over time, it can reduce our capacity - the amount of sustained pressure we can carry while still thinking clearly, communicating effectively, and leading at our best.

People often don't lose their capability.

They lose reliable access to it more often. And if that physiological load continues long enough, the amount of pressure they can sustain before that access begins to disappear gradually becomes smaller.

Eventually, even work they once loved can begin to feel exhausting.

We often think of chronic pressure as a personal issue to be managed by the individual.

In reality, it's also an organizational challenge.

The costs rarely appear first in healthcare claims or absenteeism. They show up in slower decisions, reduced innovation, less initiative, shorter patience, more conflict, and ultimately declining performance.

These are difficult costs to measure, but they're no less real.

Leadership is rarely tested when conditions are calm.

It's tested when the pressure doesn't let up.

Helping people build the capacity to remain clear, adaptable, and intentional under sustained pressure isn't simply a wellness initiative. It's an investment in better thinking, better decisions, and ultimately better performance.

When our performance begins to slip, our instinct is often to push harder.

To become more disciplined.

To find more motivation.

But perhaps we're asking the wrong question.

What if you're not losing your motivation?

What if you've simply been carrying too much for too long?

Awareness isn't the solution.

But it is where every solution begins.

Think about a time when your motivation declined.

Was it truly a lack of motivation?

Or had you simply been carrying more than you could sustainably support, for too long?

We'll explore how elite performers intentionally build capacity, and not only capability, and why that distinction may be one of the greatest competitive advantages available to leaders.

- Steven Baillargeon

Founder, Core+Clarity

Regulate your system. Perform with clarity.